Welcome to East Riding of Yorkshire Council’s support page for families and practitioners.

We understand that conflict can be part of all relationships, and this is completely normal. It’s not the conflict that is the problem but how we deal with it. Evidence shows that ongoing, poorly resolved conflict can have a damaging effect on our own relationships but more importantly on our children’s wellbeing and happiness. The following page provides tips and support local to you.

East Riding Council has a dedicated reducing parental conflict officer.

Contact details – Gemma Megson  gemma.megson@eastriding.gov.uk

Domestic Abuse

Parental conflict is not the same as domestic abuse – If you are afraid or feeling fearful within a relationship then this is more likely to be domestic abuse, please seek help.

East Riding of Yorkshire DVAP Tel: 01482 396330 & 396368

www.eastriding.gov.uk/domesticabuse

Parents & Families

We understand that everyone is facing additional financial pressures at the moment, and this might be impacting on your family relationships. For more help – Cost of living – help for households (eastriding.gov.uk)

Urgent help/Worried about a child

If you’re worried about a young person or think they might be at risk of harm, abuse, or neglect, you can contact East Riding’s Safeguarding and Partnership Hub (SAPH) to log your concern and receive advice. 

Tel: (01482) 395500

Email: safeguardingchildrenshub@eastriding.gov.uk

Amity – Little Book of Relationship Care

This is a relationship guide created by the experts at Amity to help you think about the relationships in your life and provide tips if you are facing conflict or times of stress.

Click here to download the guide.

New Parents

Antenatal Classes

East Riding Children’s Centres, in partnership with Midwifery and the ISPHNS service are currently offering Antenatal Parent Education to expectant parents who are around 28 weeks pregnant. 

Find out all about looking after yourself and your baby in the early days, as well as receiving information and guidance on safer sleep, infant feeding, bathing your baby and car seat safety.  Face to face and virtual classes are available.

East Riding Antenatal Classes Booking Form | Hull University Teaching Hospitals NHS Trust (hey.nhs.uk)

East Riding Children’s Centres are here for the whole family from the moment you know you are expecting a baby up to age 9. The East Riding has 18 Children’s Centres that offer a range of activities and services for children and their families to give every child the best start in life.

Children’s Centres (eastriding.gov.uk)

Family Support

Family support practitioners can work with you and your family when you need a bit of help to get back on track. Their role is to help find out what works best for your family by developing trusting relationships and identifying what support you need to make a change.

More information can be found: Early help and prevention (eastriding.gov.uk)

OR you can phone (01482) 391700 Early help practitioners are available Monday to Friday 9am – 4pm.

OR email

Please complete a request for service form and send to your nearest community hub.

EHP Request for Service Form (word 44kb)

Beverley – Email: ehp.beverley@eastriding.gov.uk

Bridlington – Email: ehp.bridlington@eastriding.gov.uk

Goole – Email: ehp.goole@eastriding.gov.uk

Haltemprice – Email: ehp.haltemprice@eastriding.gov.uk

Holderness – Email: ehp.holderness@eastriding.gov.uk

Wolds – Email: ehp.wolds@eastriding.gov.uk

Online Parenting Courses

East Riding have teamed up with the relationship experts at One Plus One to offer free online courses to support you and your family:

Arguing better – for anyone looking to learn how to cope better with stress and deal with arguments in a healthy way.

Me, You and Baby Too – to help new and expectant parents navigate the changes that happen in their relationship when a baby arrives.

Getting it right for children – to help separated or separating parents learn to manage conflict and minimise the impact it has on their children.

There’s also some helpful advice about the impact of debt on relationships.

https://www.oneplusone.org.uk/parents

FISH – Families’ Information Service Hub

Use the link to access FISH and explore the family directory of services and support across East Riding.

It includes –

Information on childcare options and funding

Children’s centres information

Support for SEND

Activities for young people

The Families’ Information Service Hub (FISH) (eastriding.gov.uk)

Family Services Directory – East Riding

Between Us App (Free)

Between Us is an app designed to help you have a better relationship with your partner now and in the future. It was created by Tavistock Relationships. The app provides:

A range of exercises, tips, videos and information

Allows you to better understand what’s going wrong in your relationship and do something about it.

Between Us on the App Store (apple.com)

Baby Buddy App (Free)

Free multi-award-winning, interactive pregnancy and parenting app has been created to support parents, co-parents, and caregivers. Baby Buddy provides trusted, evidence-based information and self-care tools, based on the latest research, and is NHS-approved.

Baby Buddy aims to empower parents and caregivers to build their knowledge and confidence for the crucial first five years of their child’s life, when foundations are laid.

Best Beginnings – Baby Buddy APP

ISPHNS (Integrated Specialist Public Health Nursing Service)

The Integrated Specialist Public Health Nursing Service (ISPHNS) supports families from 0 – 19 (or 25 years with SEND) They offer every family a programme of screening tests, immunisations, developmental reviews, and information and guidance to support parenting and healthy choices.

East Riding Health Visitors and School Nurses | ISPHNS (humberisphn.nhs.uk)

SEND

Support and services available for young people with SEND and their families:

https://www.eastridinglocaloffer.org.uk/

SENDIASS

Support and services available for young people with SEND and their families:

Home (eastridingsendiass.org.uk)

Phone: (01482) 396469

Email: sendiass@eastriding.gov.uk

Text: 07507310273

Tweet: @SendiassERYC

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Professionals & Practitioners

East Riding Council has a dedicated reducing parental conflict officer. Contact details –  

Gemma Megson – gemma.megson@eastriding.gov.uk

What is RPC?

Parental conflict: the impact on children – YouTube

Reducing parental conflict: why it matters to children and why it matters to services – YouTube

Definition from the DWP:

Conflict between parents is normal, but if exposure is frequent, intense, and poorly resolved, this can have a damaging impact on children, resulting in long-term mental health issues and emotional, social, behavioural, and academic problems as they grow up. There is growing understanding and awareness of the need to address and reduce parental conflict that sits below domestic abuse. Conflict between parents, rather than the event of parental separation or divorce, is a key factor in explaining why some children fare better than others when parental relationships break down.

ACES

Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) – YouTube

Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) are “highly stressful, and potentially traumatic, events or situations that occur during childhood and/or adolescence. They can be a single event, or prolonged threats to, and breaches of, the young person’s safety, security, trust, or bodily integrity.” (Young Minds, 2018).

Examples of ACEs:

  • Physical abuse
  • Sexual abuse
  • Emotional abuse
  • Living with someone who abused drugs
  • Living with someone who abused alcohol
  • Exposure to domestic violence
  • Living with someone who has gone to prison
  • Living with someone with serious mental illness
  • Losing a parent through divorce, death, or abandonment

 

Parental Conflict or Domestic Abuse?

Where there is domestic abuse there will be an imbalance of power and one parent may feel fearful of the other. The RPC programme is aimed at conflict below the threshold of domestic abuse.

The Parental Relationships Spectrum is a tool to help you understand whether a relationship is healthy, has conflict or is abusive.

If you are concerned that there may be abuse within a relationship, contact DVAP for further guidance:

DVAP Tel: 01482 396330 & 396368

www.eastriding.gov.uk/domesticabuse

Further reading –

Is It Conflict or Abuse? A Practice Note for Furthering Differential Assessment and Response (springer.com)

 

Toolkit & Resources

Amity Toolkit

East Riding of Yorkshire Council have teamed up with Amity and will be using this toolkit as the basis for all our RPC work to support families. The toolkit has been designed to support practitioners who have completed the RPC workshop and training and provides all the resources you need to get started with supporting families. Please ensure you have completed the training prior to using.

Race Equality Foundation Toolkit

Parental conflict toolkit (raceequalityfoundation.org.uk)

CAFCASS

Resources for assessing harmful conflict – Cafcass – Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service

Other Resources

I Statements – DOWNLOAD

Thoughts & Feelings – DOWNLOAD

GETTING ON BETTER CARDS (One Plus One) – DOWNLOAD

GETTING IT RIGHT FOR CHILDREN CARDS (One Plus One) – DOWNLOAD

 

One Plus One

East Riding have subscribed to One Plus One to offer free online courses to support families. This can be self-directed or worked through with you as a trusted professional. The 3 courses are:

Arguing better – for anyone looking to learn how to cope better with stress and deal with arguments in a healthy way.

Me, You and Baby Too – to help new and expectant parents navigate the changes that happen in their relationship when a baby arrives.

Getting it right for children – to help separated or separating parents learn to manage conflict and minimise the impact it has on their children.

There’s also some helpful advice about the impact of debt on relationships.

https://www.oneplusone.org.uk/practitioners

This is for practitioners only. It includes detailed guides to the three main interventions, plus extra material to support you with engaging parents.

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